When you were physically born, God placed you in a specific home with parents to feed, clothe, mature, and care for you. When you were born again as a Christian, you were born into a spiritual family with a new Father and new brothers and sisters. God's Word teaches that the primary way He calls us to relate to one another is as a family. (
Matthew 12:50;
Mark 10:29-30;
1 Corinthians 4:15;
Ephesians 2:19,
4:14-16;
1 Timothy 5:1-2).
So while the worldwide church is our spiritual family in the broadest sense, God desires to place each one of His children in a particular local church where he or she can be personally nurtured and matured.
- "I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it." -- Matthew 16:18
- "Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior." -- Ephesians 5:25
- "But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be." -- 1 Corinthians 12:18
- "God sets the solitary in families: He brings out those who are bound into prosperity; but the rebellious dwell in a dry land." -- Psalm 68:6
God places you in a family to help nurture you and for you to help nurture others. In order for you to develop as a human, you don't just need friends, you need a family that is mutually devoted to one another.
Ultimately, God is the One who decides for us where He wants to place us; our job is to discern and obey. How can you know what church God is calling you to be a part of?
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Do you enjoy this church and the people?
- Do you see biblical faithfulness and fruit in this family?
- Do you see people here living the Christian life that you want to emulate?
- Does your spirit resonate with the purposes and values of this church?
- Can you trust these leaders to be your leaders?
Keep in mind that God does not always place us where we are most comfortable - if we are too comfortable, we are probably not being stretched enough! But there should be a recognition that God is using this church and people to help you grow in Christ.